Ungrateful pregnant wife refuses to thank husband for building a nursery for their baby, he seeks advice from the internet: “A thank you goes a long way”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 2, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Marriage is like a wave: the ups and downs are constant, there's no staid moment of peace that will last forever. Everything that happens is ephemeral and evolving. Many issues can be worked on with the proper help and guidance, with the proper training, or with the proper effort. Unless there are real fundamental issues regarding betrayal or trust, then marriage issues should be workable. Marrying someone who's willing to look you in the eye and want to work on him or herself is the key to a happy marriage. We all make mistakes, but it's how we grow, learn, and deal with them that creates our ultimate life. 

Pregnancy is a beautiful and symbolic, albeit difficult time for any woman. The physical changes, the pain, discomfort, and hormonal changes will make anyone at their worst, or at least not their best. It's hard to blame a pregnant woman for how she acts, but if you read the story below, you can decide who's in the right, and who's in the wrong. Read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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    AITA for standing up to my pregnant wife?

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    My wife is 31 weeks pregnant. When we found out we were expecting, we came up with a plan for remodeling our spare bedroom into our nursery. My
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    Father in Law is a former contractor, so we told him the plans we had, and he said he would help make the dream a reality. This was February.
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    We had 1 solid week of work complete, including knocking down a section of the wall to expand out the closet. After that, the project sat. My FIL was more
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    concerned about golfing and fishing every weekend, instead of completing the project he said he would complete. It was always various reasons. He needed tools,
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    so I bought them. He said he needed his friend to help, but he was working on another house out of state and likely gone for
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    the entire summer. Numerous times I told him I would help, and it was always "we'll get it done, don't worry about it." We are due early September.
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    My wife progressively got more stressed as the due date gets closer. So despite construction not being anything I was ever taught, by the power of YouTube,
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    I started working. By myself, I laid new flooring, painted the entire nursery, installed new base boardings, trimmed out the closet door, installed the new door
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    frame and door. Mind you, our house was built in 1930, so nothing is straight. Everything is angled, so this was not an easy
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    first project to tackle. I needed my Father in Law for one day to help hang the door. Otherwise, it was just me.
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    The nursery is nearly complete. I have one more floating shelf to hang and a couple touch ups on paint. Throughout the entire process, I have yet to get a thank
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    you from my wife. It was always complaints that I wasn't getting enough done, or hyper fixation on the smallest details "you missed a paint spot there". It's
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    become rather frustrating because I'm only doing this to help. Initially, this wasn't supposed to be my project. I also am the breadwinner, and work about 50 hours a week (father in
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    law is retired, and spends most of his days on the couch.) On top of that, I handle almost all the cleaning and laundry, manage the doctor appointments, manage all
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    medication refills, cook every night, and take care of our 4 pets. But I'm trying to set a good example for our kid.
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    Yesterday, I worked again in the nursery for another day. After working for 5 hours upstairs, I wanted to take a break and hang with our dogs. We have a security
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    camera in our living room. I sat down for maybe 5-10 minutes in front of the TV when I get a call from my wife, who is at work (she works weekends only.) When | pick up, I get...
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    "You don't have time to sit down, you need to move to the next project. Do some laundry!"
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    Alright, fine. I'll throw a load in. After that, she gets off work around the time I'm done sorting and started the load. We have
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    normal convo, but when she gets home, she looks at the nursery and says "you know, I expected you to get more done today"
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    I had enough. I told her I got as much done as I could, and that we are only at this stage because of everything I did. And reminded her, not once have I gotten a
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    thank you or this looks nice. She storms off to go to her mom's house, where I'm sure she said nothing but negative things
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    about me. Since she got home last night, she's barely talked to me. I tried to help her this morning with a few small things,
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    and she respond "Don't help! | guess I have to do this all on my own"
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    I get that pregnancy does crazy things to a woman's biological makeup, and I don't expect to be treated like I'm a god. But I don't think I should be constantly
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    kicked around for all that I am doing. During the week, if she isn't sitting in our pool (which I also setup for her), she lays in
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    bed. I do almost everything. A thank you goes a long way.....
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